Step 1: Smile at her

In a crowded room, notice a woman across the way and smile at her. She’s caught your eye. She smiles back. You’re off to a good start. How to make it work for you: glim on her.

Step 2: Be nice

A colleague of mine recently told me she was frustrated with men because she always ends up dating the “nice” guys. “I want a guy that makes me feel like a woman, but they all treat me like their best friend,” she said. “How can I make them treat me differently?” my reply was simple: “Just be more attractive.” What I meant was stop being so nice. A “nice guy” is someone who is being nice to you to get something out of it. He somehow thinks that being nice to you will somehow get him closer to his goal of a relationship with you. This is not the type of guy you want to be with. He has ulterior motives. How to make it work for you: Be nice to get something in return, and you’ll attract “nice guys” into your life. Actively be nice, and you’ll attract the kind of guys who love that you are nice to them.

Step 3: Compliment her

While you don’t want to be kissing up to her the whole time, a little flattery never hurts. Compliment her on her appearance, intelligence, or personality, and she’ll start to see you as a potential partner. How to make it work for you: If you’re in a social situation, you might be interested in hearing how someone else is doing, so ask them how their job is going, a class they’re taking, or even their hobbies. Use this as a chance to learn more about them and possibly benefit from their advice.

Step 4: Be approachable

My friend, who I’ll refer to only as "Dave," has a system for approaching women. I’ve seen him use it several times and it always amazes me. The secret to Dave’s success is his ability to make women feel comfortable. His method is simple: He begins a conversation with a woman and talks about the most mundane thing he can find. A personal anecdote or story. It’s not much different from the attraction-building method we covered in the last chapter. What is different is that he doesn’t make a move on women immediately. He doesn’t ask her for her phone number or even a date. He just chats. He doesn’t try to impress her either. He’s not acting. He’s not trying to be cool. He just talks about things that interest him. How to make it work for you: This works because it makes you appear very approachable. You don’t need to be the life of the party. In fact, the more boring and undistinguished you seem, the better. People want to be big shots or stand out in a crowd. Nobody wants to be average. So, by being average, you stand out as different. And when you stand out as different, people are drawn to you. It’s about the experience. If you and another guy are talking to the same woman, the one with the most interesting story or conversation will win out. Not the one with the best clothes, the nicest car, or the biggest bank account. If you want to hook her, you need to give her a reason to be interested in you. And the best way to do this is by being an interesting person.

Step 5: Be vulnerable

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