The trick with being in a long term relationship is that the love you feel for each other is blinding you to every red flag that you should have seen from the beginning. You can tell yourself that the person is just going through a phase or that they are under stress at work, but if you keep ignoring the signs, they’re going to keep happening. Remember, red flags don’t just mean an affair or something like that. You should have seen that your partner was a slob, had anger issues, or had no friends. You should have seen that they had a problem with drugs, alcohol, or gambling. You should have seen that they were abusive or rude.
It is important to remember that love is blind, not stupid
Love makes you see a person for who they are, not who they are trying to be. Love for your partner will help you realize that he or she is experiencing a tough time with their job, family, or friends. Your love for your partner will help you realize that your partner dresses like a slob but that you don’t care because underneath the clothes, it’s still the person you fell in love with. Your love for your partner won’t allow you to ignore the fact that your partner isn’t speaking up when you two disagree, because you love the person just as they are.